Snags

Snags are the forces that hold us back from positive change in our lives. These snags come from various aspects of our lives.

Early family conditioning Sometimes this comes from how our families thought about us when we were young.For example "she was always the good child" is a message that may hold us back from doing something defined in the family as 'bad', say getting divorced.

Current relationships Sometimes the people close to us do not want us to change and work to convince us to stay stuck. This may be through explicit messages:

"There is no need to overcome your agrophobia as you can always rely on me." (said perhaps instead of: please dont become more independent as I am afraid of losing you)

or implicitly as when the husband becomes ill and depressed as the wife improves, so keeping the dependency contract in the relationship functioning.